Dating words of wisdom
Respect where you’re at in the circle of dating life and don’t try to fight it. When something’s right, there’s nothing you can do to screw it up.
A few years ago, I spoke to a group of high-schoolers about the Jewish idea of love. By focusing on the good, you can love almost anyone.
Although I didn’t believe it at the time, I gave myself the most awesome advice. Love is a mystery that you can’t harness or control or elicit or will.
To quote myself to myself (how meta), my main point was that I should be patient and do nothing: “In waiting, you’ve grown impatient at times and have tried to force things that weren’t meant to be, fought too hard for something that you knew was wrong, held on too tight to something that was already dead and gone, or pushed people away out of fear. Accept that it’s a mystery and sit down, shut up, enjoy your freaking life, and patiently wait your turn.”, because, like I said, I had lost faith, even in the truth of my own words. Exactly what I told myself to do — be patient and wait my turn — was precisely what led to me running smack into the love relationship I was waiting for. I ran into him on the subway one day and the rest was a wonderful mystery.
One in particular was in December of 2010, right around my 32nd birthday.
Funny that I can’t even remember why it was a low point.
At the end of the conversation, her mother said, "Darling, I want you to know we love you, and we love David." Susan was a bit dubious.
"Tell you what: I'll define it, and you raise your hands if you agree. When she called her parents to tell them the good news, they were elated.
That makes us guardians of those democratic institutions and traditions — like rule of law, separation of powers, equal protection and civil liberties — that our forebears fought and bled for.
And finally, take time, in the rush of events and responsibilities, for friends and family.
They’ll get you through the inevitable rough patches.
Third, we are just temporary occupants of this office.
Regardless of the push and pull of daily politics, it’s up to us to leave those instruments of our democracy at least as strong as we found them.
It will allow you to focus on what’s really important: enjoying your life and being the best person you can be — singled or coupled. Then you’ll embrace your hiatus and do ME TIME to the extreme. This was a term coined by a college friend of mine. Oh, he’s a 37-year-old polyamorous intern with a child and wife in a mental institution and he didn’t feel the need to disclose this BEFORE we went on a date? Being in love is great, but if anything, I’ve found that it makes you have to face your problems more honestly because there is another person there staring you in the face. Be as happy for all those people as you’ll want them to be for you when it’s your turn. Stay focused on what you ultimately want and in the meantime, be the best person you can be.